Summer 2010
My summer is almost over. In many ways it has been one of my most productive summers ever. I am blessed to have so many fantastic friends and family members. Despite being surrounded by so many incredible people, in some ways my summer was a failure. The successful moments came when I was able to interact with the world in a way that is consistent with my vision statement. It has helped me make important choices in numerous ways. Here it is:
Taking courage, thinking what is pure, praiseworthy, lovely, admirable, noble, true and excellent, and right, relating to others with love, compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience, forgiving when I am grieved, and governing with mercy, I will lean into the light with all of my strength.
Failures tended to happen when I strayed from my vision statement. An important corollary to the statement is this statement that I “stole” from Gerard Manley Hopkins:
What I do is me, for that I came.
So what are the themes that run through my summer; what did I do this summer that is “me”?
Here is what I have decided to do: (1) Make a list (in no particular order) of events that have had the greatest impact on me; (2) discuss all ten events, with an eye toward distilling the most important ideas that arise from participation in the event, and; (3) synthesizing my thoughts to develop concrete ideas that can be taken away from these summer experiences.
My Experiences
India trip
I have previously talked about India here and here , and there are many pictures of the trip here and here. India was how I began my summer – it was a trip where I learned that holiness without action is hollow (I suppose I already knew that action without holiness is likewise hollow). I spent from June 22 until July 6 there. During much of that time, I was living at The Hope Center Orphanage in Motipur. I was able to observe a wonderful and successful program designed to help children (many of them orphans) succeed in a rapidly changing world by providing them not only with basic needs (food, shelter, clothing) but also with a solid education. The orphanage is in the process of creating a school for the children there.
There is certainly a need at this school for additional resources. I hope to be able to continue to give as I am able. If you are interested in giving, please let me know, or contact them directly. I can say with certainty that it is a worthy cause.
While it is still a work in progress, one can see that prayer and hard work are paying off and that good things are happening there. This experience taught me in real terms the importance of “action” in “relationships.”
Circle of Trust
I rarely do New Year’s resolutions, but this year I did two. One of them was to go to India, and the second was to participate in a Circle of Trust Seminar. At the Circle of Trust Seminar I learned the importance of listening and questioning. In other words, I learned that action often means more than “doing something.” Often the highest and best use of our time is simply to listen to what others have to say.
The people who attended the conference (overall) are very committed to justice issues. That theme resonated throughout my weekend of training.
Experiencing Serendipity
I experienced several instances of “serendipity” this summer, where things seemed to come together in ways that went beyond planning on my part. Here are three examples.
First, as part of my responsibilities to work in Macedonia, it is important for me to visit the Macedonian Consulate in Chicago to get a passport stamp. It is planned for me to spend two nights in Chicago. I was not sure where to stay. When I looked for hotels online, they were expensive. Last fall I sent my mom a subscription to a Quaker magazine. In July, after returning to the US, while at my mom’s, I read one of the magazines I sent her. In the back of the magazine was an advertisement for a place to stay in Chicago (short-term or long-term). I called and was able to book an inexpensive room close to the consulate building. More important however, I established a connection with Quakers in Chicago that is real. I was invited to have dinner with a large group of Quakers my first night there!
A second example of serendipity occurred my first day in Flagstaff. I was talking on skype with Karina, a friend from Atyrau about her experience in going to University in Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan. I was sitting in a local coffee shop because it had an internet connection which was unavailable at my daughters’ apartment. When I ended the conversation, I was approached by one of the three customers in the room. She apologized for hearing what I said (honestly it couldn’t be helped), but said that she was a teacher in Kazakhstan. We ended up talking for several hours about what we have in common which includes a keen desire to support justice in the world.
A third example also happened in Flagstaff. I attended a Quaker Church service there with Doug. After the service, we talked with some of the people who attended the service. It turned out that several of the people are nurses at the Flagstaff Medical Center, and were very willing to be a resource for Gretchen.
It seems to me that serendipity permits action in ways that cannot be anticipated but are just as important as the carefully planned interventions that I strive for.
Being with Gretchen, Anna, Brooke and Lexi
Gretchen and Anna did such a nice job welcoming me into their home. Gretchen made some wonderful meals and we had great conversations. Brooke and Lexi were very fun to play with. We spent substantial time at the park, at a nearby pond, at the library and walking downtown. Blood relationships really do matter. The biological connection is important.
Being with Doug, and on another occasion, being with the Reyes Family
Doug and I have known each other since kindergarten. Our relationship is one that Plato would label as “flourishing.” I love that we can pick up right where we left off; equally important is that the relationship can move easily from deep philosophical conversations to light humor and back again without effort.
In a similar way, I loved meeting with the Reyes Family for dinner and talking with them about the past, the present and the future.
Being with Mom, Kathryn, Chad, TJ and Grady
I love my family, and these guys are so important to me. Chad is like a brother. The boys are fun and interesting to watch as they grow and change. Kathryn is a beautiful human. I learn about resilience from the Rickners. They are troopers. And Mom is all of that too. My time with Mom was too short, but almost throughout was infused with love.
Being with Dad and Laura (Midwest and Olympia)
I have seen Dad emote in just about every way possible this summer. I have seen laughter, sorrow, joy, anger, frustration, curiosity and other shades of emotion as well. We spent most of a week together in July driving through Minnesota and Iowa. We spent two or three days in Sioux City, where Dad looked at his physical past, which inevitably brought up memories and emotions.
In early August, just before the Rickners left for the Netherlands, we had a party to celebrate Dad's 75th birthday. It was wonderful to see our family, as disfunctional as it can sometimes be, come together for this event. Dad gave a wonderful statement about our family that ended on a high note. I might even compare his speech to that of Benjamin Franklin following the writing of the Constitution.
Later in the summer, we spent time while I shopped to get ready for Macedonia. I am so thankful for my father. I am also grateful for Laura.
Being with Dan and Warren
It was a great joy for me to spend a Saturday morning in July hiking a mountain trail with Warren and Dan. In a way similar to my relationship with Doug, Warren, Dan and I have a flourishing friendship. We laughed and reminisced about important events, and took joy in our company.
Being with John, Laura and Jesse
I was only able to spend about four days with John, Laura and Jesse this year. It was still a great time. John is optimistic despite physical difficulties. We had a good time together.
The Response to a Facebook Entry
One big surprise this summer happened when I decided to post a simple facebook entry: “James Lerch is gearing up for teaching in Macedonia.” The response from friends and family highlights for me the interconnected web of relationships that I have developed during my life.
I received feedback from people from all over the world, as well as people that I spent substantial time with in the past, but have not personally seen in years. In all, I received six comments and thirteen “likes.” People from fourteen different countries provided feedback! Long-time friends, as well as friends from my time in Cameroon, Hong Kong and Kazakhstan all provided feedback.
Conclusion
What did I do this summer “that is me?” Thomas Merton says this:
If you want to identify me, ask not where I live, or what I eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I am living for, in detail, and ask me what I think is keeping me from fully living for the thing I want to live for.
From the intensity of meaningful relationships comes the necessity for action. We are all in this life together, and despite what we are told, we are separated neither by time nor space. One of my favorite writings is from Hebrews 11, which, after talking about many important biblical characters, highlights this important but overlooked point of our interconnectedness:
These were all commended for their faith, yet none of them received what had been promised. 40God had planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be made perfect.
I hope for Christ-like perfection (even in this life I strive for it), but I know that without relating to others, it will never happen. So this summer has taught me that growth requires relationships in which action (from listening to acting) is the rule.
How have I failed? I continue to fall short in my relationships. I still have much to learn. I am not always a good communicator. I see this poem as a good reminder of what is important. Whether we are artists, citizens or philosophers the goal is to relate. Here is a poem that actually ended up being the centerpiece of my Circle of Trust training in Minnesota:
"You have been telling the people that this is the Eleventh Hour, now you must go back and tell the people that this is the Hour. And there are things to be considered . . .
Where are you living?
What are you doing?
What are your relationships?
Are you in right relation?
Where is your water?
Know your garden.
It is time to speak your Truth.
Create your community.
Be good to each other.
And do not look outside yourself for the leader."
Then he clasped his hands together, smiled, and said, "This could be a good time!"
"There is a river flowing now very fast. It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid. They will try to hold on to the shore. They will feel they are torn apart and will suffer greatly.
"Know the river has its destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above water. And I say, see who is in there with you and celebrate. At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally, Least of all ourselves. For the moment that we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to a halt.
"The time for the lone wolf is over. Gather yourselves! Banish the word struggle from you attitude and your vocabulary. All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.
"We are the ones we've been waiting for."
-- Attributed to an unnamed Hopi elder
Hopi Nation
Oraibi, Arizona
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